Should Kymba Go Labour? Post by: Kymba Cahill 18 August, 2010 - 4:26 PM

My sister is having her second baby next week and yet this is a first time experience for me. During her first ‘child creation’ I was living overseas so I missed the pregnancy, the labour and the first 6 months of my nieces life. My sister is so happy to have me home for this one so has been more than generous in sharing her pregnancy woes and joys with me over the past 9 months. She has been so generous, that I have been offered a front row seat in the delivery room for her labour.

I’m quite excited to have another niece or nephew in our family but... I’m not sure I am ready for the platinum tickets at the birth. I adore children, I find them funny and smart and undeniably fascinating. I myself however, am just not clucky. If the biological clock actually exists, mine needs a new battery or a much louder chime. While I would like children of my own eventually, I am in no rush right now.

In fact, aside from the minor indiscretion of not having anyone decent to breed with, I think I might be AFRAID of having children. The parenting part doesn’t phase me at all. That’s not to say that it’s easy, but I am at peace with the idea of raising a child to be a decent and respectable individual. I am more concerned with the actual birthing. Pretty much any medical situation makes me feel unwell. I am the person who watches medical documentaries with my eyes covered, and the same person who thinks that babies enter the world completely clean and smelling like talc.

I don’t know what to expect. I know the end result but I’m not sure what my sister and I have to endure during the process. I want to support my sister because I love her more than anything, but I’m not sure my stomach or nerves are up to the challenge!

I would love to hear your stories from the delivery room- did hubby cope? Who supported you during labour? Did you kick everyone out of the room because it was too much to bear? Help me overcome (allegedly) the most natural thing on earth...

Yours in anxiousness, Kymba.

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• Johnno says

  Do it Kymba - you won't regret it!!!

  Posted Wednesday 18 August, 2010 4:33 PM
• Mary says

  I'm probably the same Kymba - hate pain, hate blood so no kids for me

  Posted Wednesday 18 August, 2010 4:34 PM
• Felicity Rohner says

  My hubby went out to smoke a cigar - prematurely to celebrate the baby. When he came back I could not stand the smell of smoke on him anymore and through him out! Instead, my girlfriend came to assist me. When the time was close, however, I allowed hubby to be there, too, of course

  Posted Wednesday 18 August, 2010 8:11 PM
• Bryce says

  Kymba, besides the fact you would be a great Mum! Imagin how good a show from the labour ward would be..... you can call it "The BIG BIRTHING SUIT" Contractions dont last that long, and the boys can talk for you while they are happening!
  Imagin the sound bites you could get! Go on... do it for the show!

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 8:04 AM
• Sally says

  Do it Kymba! It will be your most amazing and moving experience and cannot be matched by anything else apart from giving birth yourself oneday!

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 10:53 AM
• Jenni AUSTIN says

  As painful as it is, just remember, very few women ever stop at one!!! That is what i was told a week before I gave birth to my first, I was terrified!!! The best part was my labours were all under 2 1/2 hours and I had three kids and not one single drug/gas etc!!! Put it this way, I would rather give birth, then caryy the thing around for 9 months!! Enjoy it - it is the most amazing miracle you will ever get to see!! Hope all goes well for your sister xx

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 11:09 AM
• Been there done that! says

  Hi Kymba

  Well all I can say is that ultimately the choice will be yours. I have had births by both ways and feel that:

  1. Natural child birht is excrutiating...has some good drugs to help dull the pain but not the less painful it is! The good side is when it's done it's done!

  2. Caesarean....well you do avoid all of the pain of natural child birth, but it goes on afterwoods. You will still experience pain...there is no avoiding it. The caeserean takes at least 6 weeks healing time, you have to re-think everything you do, picking up baby, vaccuming, walking etc. It just seems to go on forever!

  I have had five children, of which the thrid one was born via caeserean, I did not want to do it again for my last two. I did not enjoy it, yet thought it would be the easier option!

  Like I say the ultimate choice is yours, neither way is a 'simple' way .

  Good luck with your choice and know that once your babe comes along none of these choices will matter.

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 4:21 PM
• Donna says

  I'm a mum ot three and for my second child my mum was their. It made it so much easier having someone that I love holding me and telling me that everything is alright.
  It is the worse pain you will ever see someone go through but it is the only pain that goes a way when you see your child for the first time. I think that you should take the opportunity you won't regret it you will thank your sister for the experiance.

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 6:35 PM
• emma atkinson says

  i am a student midwife. there is no greater joy or priviledge to be part of a birth. it can be scary but is completely awesome go for it

  Posted Thursday 19 August, 2010 10:02 PM
• carol says

  Hi Kimba, I was the birth partner for my daughter, it was fantastic! I wasn't at the 'business end', so didn't see anything and I ended up being the first person to hold my grandson Macauley, this was 10yrs ago and Mac and I still share a special bond! If you find yourself getting to 'squeamish' you can always leave!!!!!

  Posted Friday 20 August, 2010 2:39 PM

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